To continue with yesterday’s theme, which was breaking free & happiness comes from within. I came across this article on my facebook feed, from a wonderful page called Meditation. I wanted to share the message with you.
Love has three stages. First you have to learn to love yourself, because only if you love yourself can you love the other. You have to love yourself so much that love starts overflowing. Perhaps that is where you are; you need the other. That is the second stage of love.
Loving the other is a difficult job. Loving oneself is simple. Because the other need not fit with you, need not fulfill your expectations; the other may start power trips, ego trips, all kinds of numbers. And you will need love enough not to be dominated, not to be destroyed by the other; otherwise, the other always destroys it.
Jean-Paul Sartre is not absolutely wrong when he says the other is hell. Alone you can be silent, peaceful. With the other everything becomes difficult, everything becomes a conflict. The very presence of the other makes demands on you. You have to be very compassionate, very kind, not to get caught into an intimate enmity; otherwise the other is going to become a hell to you.
You have to be so loving that your love transforms the other, to such an extent that you can say the other is not hell. You have to be very articulate, very understanding. It is one of the greatest experiments in life. There is no other experiment which is bigger. You have to love in such a way that slowly, slowly it changes the other person, and the other person starts dropping the effort to dominate, the effort to manipulate. It all depends on your love.
In each case you should remember that you have taken the step. It is your experiment, and you have to be grateful to the other that he is participating in your experiment. If you want your experiment to be successful, then you have to go on loving in spite of the other, not bothering about small things.
Only when you can love the other person to such an extent that it becomes a transformation in him or in her does the third stage of love arrive. Then it is not a question of two persons loving each other; then it is love which engulfs two persons and the two persons become, in a certain deeper sense, one whole.
In India we have the statue of Aradhanishwar, half man, half woman. That is the third stage of love: when the man and the woman are no more two persons, they have become half and half into one whole. This third stage of love is, automatically, meditation. One who can reach this stage need not do anything else for meditation; this will be his mysticism. This was the whole approach of tantra, to reach to the third stage of love; then no other religion, no other methods are needed. Love itself becomes your god, your ultimate experience.
But the second stage is really difficult; otherwise, for thousands of years people would not have escaped into monasteries. What was the fear? Why were they trying to hide in monasteries?
The second step is really difficult, and because of the difficulty all religions have chosen to escape from life. But escaping from life is not the answer, it is simply cowardice.
Life has to be changed through understanding. And if you love, love has an alchemy of its own. If love cannot change the other person, it only means you don’t know what love is; you must be misunderstanding something else for love, because love is absolutely capable of changing people. In fact, it is the only way to change.
There is no place where love is being taught. There is no place where love is being nourished. That is one of the functions of the mystery school: to make your love pure, pure of ego and power and domination — just a sheer gift of joy, a delight in the being of the other person, just a sharing of all that you have, holding nothing back.
Love is the greatest magic.
Don’t be afraid of the other; let the other enter your life. I don’t teach escapism. I teach you to go into the world, to transform the world, because only in that transformation will you be transformed. By escaping to the hills and to the monasteries you will miss transformation yourself. You will shrink, you will not expand. And if you cannot love a single person, how are you going to love the whole universe? And that’s what prayer is — loving the whole universe.
People feel that it is easier to love the whole universe, because there seems to be no problem — the universe, the trees, the stars, the moon, the sun… they don’t create any problem.
The other creates trouble because your love is not enough. If your love is overflowing, the other will be showered by it, cleansed by it. And instead of creating trouble for you, the other can become a tremendous help, a complementary part in the organic unity of your being, and can lead you to the third stage.
It all depends on how much you can love.
And I don’t think that one should be miserly about love. It costs nothing. And it is not a quantity, that you have loved one kilo, so now there is one kilo less. It is not a quantity.
The more you love, the more you have it.
The more you give, the more the universe goes on pouring into you from all sides. There are hidden springs, just as in a well.
Love has an underground way of filling you, invisible.
The only way to know is just give it and see — you are always full.
Osho Upanishad # 29/
The beautiful model is Gaye McDonald, this is a photoshoot from The One Magazine.
Photographed by Pieter Henket, Hair by Ben Skervin.
Not only do I love each and every single dress, the whole photoshoot is one big inspiration to me personally. Gaye looks absolutely stunning and she wears the gowns full of pride and with grace! As a semi-professional photographer, the shots are just stunning. I love the silhouettes of the dresses, how the flow and compliment her body. The background fits perfectly with the shots. The colors are what makes the shoot so lively and vibrant, along with the movements. It’s just one of the best ones I’ve seen! Truly amazing. Truly inspiring. Truly inspired.
Ever since seeing this dress on Jennifer Lopez in American Idol, I have not been able to get this dress out of my head. It’s some of the most stunning dresses I’ve ever seen! The dress fits her like a glove. I love colors, especially on dresses! I want my dress/clothes to be colorful, something fun, cozy, easy to wear – you get the drift. I guess if I had to think of my style, I think it’d be more laid-back, California style. This dress is just that!
You see what I mean? A sexy Latina wearing a gorgeous dress that is so colorful, one that accentuates her body so well? Jennifer wasn’t the only Latina wearing this dress, Rosario Dawson wore it too..
The dress is from Salvatore Ferragamo’s spring 2012 collection. The collection features bold and bright colors, floral patterns and form fitting silhouettes. Models walked the runway in flowing dresses draped gracefully. The collection is perfect for fashionistas planning a getaway to the beach. With colors ranging from bright reds to bold blues, Ferragamo’s collection is ideal for the chic and stylish woman.
According to an Associated Press report, Ferragamo designer Massimiliano Giornetti was “decidedly fantasy-driven in the collection.”
You can see the full collection on Elle.
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